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"Before we met, I wanted you...Before I found you, I loved you...Before I touched your face, I would die for you...This is the miracle of love."
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"Before we met, I wanted you...Before I found you, I loved you...Before I touched your face, I would die for you...This is the miracle of love."
Our Story is in this book!
The first time ever I saw your face
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The province where Adam was born
About Vinh Long
Vĩnh Long (literally "eternal dragon") is a city in Vietnam. It is the capital of the Vĩnh Long Province. Vĩnh Long is on the Co Chien river, which branches out from the Mekong at the narrows of My Thuan about ten km upstream from Vinh Long, only to meet it later downstream. A number of canals run through Vĩnh Long, as well as the islands, with with tall pedestrian/motorcycle bridges crossing them. Much transportation takes place by boat, so that parts of the town become unreachable at low tide. A temple of literature is at the end of a old wet market along the canal Lavoo Nu. Vinh Long is about two hours from the large town of Can Tho in the adjacent Hau Giang Province, and about three hours from Saigon.
Timeline
- 9/10/07 Giving and Receiving Ceremony
- 3/28/07 Logged in!
- 3/5/07 Referral!
- 2/28/07 On the Waiting List
- 2/14/07 Dossier Submitted
- 12/9/06 I-171H received
- 9/20/06 Homestudy Approved
- 7/25/06 Second Home Study Visit
- 4/22/06 Fingerprinting
- 4/18/06 First Home Study Visit
- 3/30/06 Formal Application Approved
- 3/27/06 Formal Application Mailed
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About Me
- Kathy
- Single mom of beautiful, brilliant 7 and a half year old boy from Vietnam. Content in so many of the most important ways, yet eager to expand my horizons, intellectually, socially, and maybe even romantically.
10 comments:
Why do you ask? I still need a Nepal buddy...
I split my time 50/50 between my mom's house where it was just me and my Dad's house where I had 3 sibs. I vote sibs. Those bonds are an amazing tie and I think more important when a child might not have the strongest sense of connection to the family. So, for us at least, that led us to start the process for Child 2.0
Feel free to email me for a more in depth response.
Only child of bio parent(s) - no problem. Only child of married adoptive parents - not bad. Only child of single adoptive mother....I was there at one time, and as she got older I thought it was sad that when I was gone, she'd have no other immediate family who shared her history. Having three Asian children has not only expanded the immediate family, but it has made ME - the parent - the minority person in our household. They are the dominant race in our home, and they know it :-)
Not saying that things wouldn't be perfectly fine raising an only child. But if you don't have a supportive, loving, and totally-there extended family, my personal opinion is that two children would be better.
I also wonder about this so will be interested to see any comments you get. Are you considering another child? I think about it sometimes but don't know if I can handle it financially or otherwise.
Kathy...I am an only child. I loved my childhood...in parts. I missed having a sibling to talk to, to hang with and to just be around. But, I loved all of the special attention I got because there was only one of me. I was also the only grandchild on my step dad's side of the family...so I was a tad bit spoiled.
But, as I got older, I really missed having the comradrie that a sibling brings. Not having that special sister to go shopping with or to vent about my parents with was a bit of a downer. When my mom was so sick and dying, I missed having a sibling to help me care for her. It was so difficult caring for an ailing parent all alone. Of course Charlie was there, but it wasn't the same as having a sibling.
After my mom passed away, I loved the fact that I didn't have a sibling to argue with over all of her stuff. Not that she had that much stuff, but I didn't have to worry about any hard feelings, etc.
As I'm getting older, I miss not having a sibling more and more. After my parents died, it was like I was the only family left. Sure, I have cousins and such, but it's not the same.
When we decided to adopt a second child, we did it mainly because we don't want Ian to be alone. We love having 2 kids to play together and grow up together. We're hopeful they will always be close.
I will tell you though, it's much different with 2 kids. My friends didn't tell me that going from one kid to 2 was like going from one kid to FIVE. Oh my word...it's a lot more work and I still find it difficult to manage at times. BUT....I don't regret making that decision to add the second child one single second. He brings so much joy and spice to our lives.
This is just my thoughts on being an only child. Hope it helps.
Nadra
I obviously do not have personal experience with this, but one of my good friends in school was an only child. Pros: Parents had time to focus on him and only him. Parents had more money (kids, as you may have noticed, are spendy), so they went on plenty of vacations and trips to visit relatives and such. I think his parents would have liked to have more children, but instead they filled their house with all of us and we had rockin' good times. The key is to keep the house stocked with Doritos and movies :)
LOL - one of my favourite funny mommy bloggers just had a post about being married to an only child: http://theaccidentalmommy.blogspot.com/2009/12/dangit-dangit-dangit.html
Probably not helpful but will give you a laugh! :)
My son is an only child, but not necessarily because I planned that way. I do wish he could have siblings, but I've talked with adult only children I know and they don't seem to have complaints. My son wishes he could have siblings, but I have explained to him that most likely he will form friendships with people who will become like siblings to him. Also, I plan to keep my home wide open to his friends as he grows up, to help him with this. His first-grade teacher told me she has taken in friends of her children, as well as her nephew, and they have become like her children. I thought that seemed like a neat thing to do -- a way to have other children around. Dunno if my comments here make sense. It's late. ;^)
I saw this post last week and saved it to comment. Sorry I am just getting around to it. This is my PERSONAL experience, and I'm sure there is someone out there who feels the exact opposite, but I did not like being an only child, especially since I grew up with a single mom (my dad died when I was 7).
When my husband and I discussed having a third child he said, "Do you think you are trying to compensate for your own childhood?" he was shocked when I answered, "Absolutely." He either didn't think I recognized that about myself or he didn't think I would be that honest, I'm not sure which.
It was great to have my mom's undivided attention and all, but I really feel like I missed out on a lot by not having the experience of having siblings. I know not all siblings are close, but I wish I knew that I was linked to someone like that. I worry how I will feel if something ever happens to my mom, because I won't have any family left. (Obviously I will have my husband and children, but not my original family.) I also worry that if my mom ever gets ill, everything will fall on me.
So there's my two cents... :)
That has been a big topic around here lately. I like the idea of having 2 kids, but I don't know th at I can handle it, especially while my daughter has so many needs.
Only child here of single mom. I have read a lot of the topic (due to my job) and I have never met an only child who chooses to have an only themselves - I think that says a lot! I'm sure they exist, but they are least likely to have an only.
I think it is even more important when you have a single parent to have an additional person in the family, a sibling, otherwise once that parent dies you have no family left with the same experiences, bond, memories etc.
One thing I noticed is that once my friends hit 25, they began to do girls weekends with their sisters, as well as skiing trips etc and it meant friends were pushed slightly to the side as they couldn't afford both, also sibling rivalry ended and they gained SIL's etc.
I have a cousin who was not an only but thought it would be fine having one as her son's had cousins the same age. Well those cousins moved when he was about 8 and the other set just kind of grew apart and she realized it was a big big mistake on their part but by then felt it was too late to do anything about it (they struggled with infertility and the country they live in has an adoption time frame of 4 years (1 year wait for a homestudy and very limited countries you are allowed to adopt from) and 2 years later they were over the age requirement of their country. I have to say when I see pictures of their son vs my cousins children, I just feel so sad for him because I feel he is missing out on so much in comparrison.
I'm a single adopter hoping for a way to afford to adopt 7x ;)
Best wishes with your decision!
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