Opinions, experiences requested

I'm struggling a bit with how much information is appropriate to present to Adam at this time about his birth family/adoption, etc. Right now, what he knows is that he was born in Vietnam and that I took a plane to go and get him and bring him home. Recently, I added to his knowledge the fact that he has family in Vietnam and that we can visit them someday when he is older if he likes. But I haven't been very explicit about who this family is. So, I'm wondering -- is this enough information for him at his age? I have pictures I could show him. Should I tell him these are his parents and siblings? (Not to take anything away from his rather large extended imaginary family, which includes his "other mother", his child, his brothers, his husband (LOL)and his sisters -- who are the only ones who seem to have names -- Caneena Ootz and Caneena Aatz).

Is this too much information right now? I know the right thing to do -- its the timing and the details that are hard.

Wise words

When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible but in the end, they always fall-- think of it, always.

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Makes you think

“How often my fear and ambivalence are rooted in what somebody else may think. But I need not present my actions, my words, myself for somebody else's approval. And basing my decisions on somebody else's approval or making my own approval contingent on somebody else's only postpones what I really want.”

- Jan Denise -

Everyone poops (part 2)

After months of trying to retrain Adam's recalcitrant colon with only minimal success, the pooping doctor has decided its time to take further action. First step is an abdominal x-ray to rule out (hopefully) Hirschsprung's disease. This is a disease in which portions of the intestine have no nerve endings and therefore can't push the poop along its merry way, causing a very unpleasant traffic jam. If it is Hirschsprung's, treatment may involve surgical remove of the ineffective part of the intestines -- doesn't that sound like fun?

If it isn't, he's going to refer us to a specialist. I'm hoping Adam can be toilet trained before high school.

Is it genetic?

On the plane to Florida, Adam said to the stewardess "Oh, you have beautiful legs!". She was charmed. I was mortified.

We saw the Radio City Christmas Show for the second time this Christmas and Adam got the DVD for Christmas. He has now informed me he likes the Rockettes legs and butts.

Where does he get this stuff? LOL! He certainly doesn't get it from me and I doubt Sister Enalyn discusses legs and butts much at daycare. I can remember him sitting in the stroller in a drugstore while we were waiting for a prescription and watching him reach out to squeeze some unsuspecting woman's rear. Is it just genetic? A male thing?

OK.....

.....being an only child. Pros and cons. Discuss.

Words of Wisdom

Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones. -Marcus Aurelius, philosopher and writer (121-180)